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Post by Baco Noir on Apr 24, 2024 16:46:43 GMT -6
I'm so sorry to hear that, may he rest in peace. Things such as this certainly do put it into perspective of what matters most in life. Happy to hear that your daughter is pursuing this, she's going to do well! And the new house is also fantastic! Honestly, less is more. Having fewer watches you truly enjoy to the fullest (or one) is better than 10,20,30+ where on some cases most don't get any wrist time or have the same level of appreciation. For you the best one watch solution would for sure be a good red Sub. Thank you so much for the kind words. My father passed away of liver cancer during the middle of the pandemic. I had to make two trips back to the United States from Spain to get things in order to pay visit to him. It was very hard I ended up having to say goodbye via Zoom. It was so cold. With my work and everything I wasn’t able to stay until he passed so I ended up coming back. He passed a couple of weeks after. We were never really that close but he was my only connection to the United States. I ended up selling the house and everything. It was really sad. It was kind of my home away from home and I had to let it go. Life turns on a dime. You never know what’s coming next. So this is why we kind of have to live for the moment the best that we can. Man that sucks Steve. It must have been terrible to say goodbye over Zoom. We lost my mom, dad, and father-in-law in the last 3 years and we weren't there for any of them. That said, we had visited frequently because of their age and health. The last time I tried to talk to my dad, he was non-verbal and we were alone and he was trying so hard to speak to tell me something. He resorted to panomime and basic told me I was getting fat! I was mad at first, but then we laughed and laughed, because even though he couldn't talk, I knew he was still the man I knew inside. Right now my wife is still working through her dad's estate with her family and it's starting to ruin relationships. The local sister is assigned as a personal representative for the estate, but she is CLUELESS about finances. She's so clueless her husband told me years ago, they no longer discuss finances. She's one that if you have money in the bank, it's okay to spend it. She has no clues what bills are coming up or which ones she's only made partial payments on. I've been telling my friends that if their parents are still around, mend fences and cherish it while you can, even if it means looking past whatever drove you apart. On the plus side, my brothers and I have become closer and talk more often these days.
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Post by rw16610 on Apr 24, 2024 16:59:51 GMT -6
Nicko Agreed wholeheartedly regarding living to the fullest and cherishing each moment. That sounds difficult, indeed, but I know for a fact he would want you to enjoy your life to the max and be happy.
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Nicko
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Post by Nicko on Apr 24, 2024 17:01:39 GMT -6
Thank you so much for the kind words. My father passed away of liver cancer during the middle of the pandemic. I had to make two trips back to the United States from Spain to get things in order to pay visit to him. It was very hard I ended up having to say goodbye via Zoom. It was so cold. With my work and everything I wasn’t able to stay until he passed so I ended up coming back. He passed a couple of weeks after. We were never really that close but he was my only connection to the United States. I ended up selling the house and everything. It was really sad. It was kind of my home away from home and I had to let it go. Life turns on a dime. You never know what’s coming next. So this is why we kind of have to live for the moment the best that we can. Man that sucks Steve. It must have been terrible to say goodbye over Zoom. We lost my mom, dad, and father-in-law in the last 3 years and we weren't there for any of them. That said, we had visited frequently because of their age and health. The last time I tried to talk to my dad, he was non-verbal and we were alone and he was trying so hard to speak to tell me something. He resorted to panomime and basic told me I was getting fat! I was mad at first, but then we laughed and laughed, because even though he couldn't talk, I knew he was still the man I knew inside. Right now my wife is still working through her dad's estate with her family and it's starting to ruin relationships. The local sister is assigned as a personal representative for the estate, but she is CLUELESS about finances. She's so clueless her husband told me years ago, they no longer discuss finances. She's one that if you have money in the bank, it's okay to spend it. She has no clues what bills are coming up or which ones she's only made partial payments on. I've been telling my friends that if their parents are still around, mend fences and cherish it while you can, even if it means looking past whatever drove you apart. On the plus side, my brothers and I have become closer and talk more often these days. Life is a fleeting moment, my friend; material things do not matter at all. Watches, cars, clothes, nothing. I inherited a lot, and unfortunately, so did the tax man. Dad wrote his will on his deathbed; the house was never in my name. A POA allowed me to make a quit claim and sell the house, empty accounts, and other tangible assets. Do you know what I did with the money? I bought some land and fenced it, and I am building a house and stables that will ultimately be for my daughter. Oh, yeah, and a new car and Daytona. But I’m not happy. What makes me happy is that I could buy my daughter the horse she always wanted and send her to a private veterinary school, which makes me smile. It’s only money, and my friend, there is no room in the coffin for that.
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Baco Noir
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Post by Baco Noir on Apr 24, 2024 17:07:27 GMT -6
Man that sucks Steve. It must have been terrible to say goodbye over Zoom. We lost my mom, dad, and father-in-law in the last 3 years and we weren't there for any of them. That said, we had visited frequently because of their age and health. The last time I tried to talk to my dad, he was non-verbal and we were alone and he was trying so hard to speak to tell me something. He resorted to panomime and basic told me I was getting fat! I was mad at first, but then we laughed and laughed, because even though he couldn't talk, I knew he was still the man I knew inside. Right now my wife is still working through her dad's estate with her family and it's starting to ruin relationships. The local sister is assigned as a personal representative for the estate, but she is CLUELESS about finances. She's so clueless her husband told me years ago, they no longer discuss finances. She's one that if you have money in the bank, it's okay to spend it. She has no clues what bills are coming up or which ones she's only made partial payments on. I've been telling my friends that if their parents are still around, mend fences and cherish it while you can, even if it means looking past whatever drove you apart. On the plus side, my brothers and I have become closer and talk more often these days. Life is a fleeting moment, my friend; material things do not matter at all. Watches, cars, clothes, nothing. I inherited a lot, and unfortunately, so did the tax man. Dad wrote his will on his deathbed; the house was never in my name. A POA allowed me to make a quit claim and sell the house, empty accounts, and other tangible assets. Do you know what I did with the money? I bought some land and fenced it, and I am building a house and stables that will ultimately be for my daughter. Oh, yeah, and a new car and Daytona. But I’m not happy. What makes me happy is that I could buy my daughter the horse she always wanted and send her to a private veterinary school, which makes me smile. It’s only money, and my friend, there is no room in the coffin for that. You speak the truth and what amazing gifts for her. She’ll cherish what you’ve done for her.
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Post by Nicko on Apr 24, 2024 17:20:23 GMT -6
Thank you so much for the kind words. My father passed away of liver cancer during the middle of the pandemic. I had to make two trips back to the United States from Spain to get things in order to pay visit to him. It was very hard I ended up having to say goodbye via Zoom. It was so cold. With my work and everything I wasn’t able to stay until he passed so I ended up coming back. He passed a couple of weeks after. We were never really that close but he was my only connection to the United States. I ended up selling the house and everything. It was really sad. It was kind of my home away from home and I had to let it go. Life turns on a dime. You never know what’s coming next. So this is why we kind of have to live for the moment the best that we can. Man that sucks Steve. It must have been terrible to say goodbye over Zoom. We lost my mom, dad, and father-in-law in the last 3 years and we weren't there for any of them. That said, we had visited frequently because of their age and health. The last time I tried to talk to my dad, he was non-verbal and we were alone and he was trying so hard to speak to tell me something. He resorted to panomime and basic told me I was getting fat! I was mad at first, but then we laughed and laughed, because even though he couldn't talk, I knew he was still the man I knew inside. Right now my wife is still working through her dad's estate with her family and it's starting to ruin relationships. The local sister is assigned as a personal representative for the estate, but she is CLUELESS about finances. She's so clueless her husband told me years ago, they no longer discuss finances. She's one that if you have money in the bank, it's okay to spend it. She has no clues what bills are coming up or which ones she's only made partial payments on. I've been telling my friends that if their parents are still around, mend fences and cherish it while you can, even if it means looking past whatever drove you apart. On the plus side, my brothers and I have become closer and talk more often these days. So sorry for your loss my friend. As I said—life turns on a dime. All it takes is one left turn. You take care of yourself.
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